Establishing Routines

The most difficult thing about adding a new child to the family has been establishing new routines.  JT was so used to our old routines, which included frequent trips to the park and Gymboree, where he had our undivided attention.  Suddenly, we have a newborn that also needs our attention sometimes.  The great thing about having a newborn placed with us first is that our little Bug is relatively easy to care for, besides a touch of colic.  Even though Little J still has a big portion of my attention, he's still exhibiting some behaviors which I think is a result of the lack of routines these days.  We've been in survival mode.  Plus, J is really good at being 2.

So, we have started some routines to help J transition from one activity to another, and also to help cut down on tv time and encourage more learning activities.  I started with a schedule that J can follow along with.  Most of our day is still playing with cars and trains, but we also do other fun activities.  And I give a 5 minute warning between everything we do.  Hopefully this will help!  I'm open to other ideas too!


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