With Love, Mommy

Yes, that's right. I am updating the blog to let you all know that we have no new updates. Some say that the system is broken, or that it lets children just "sit" in foster care. Maybe there is truth to that. From what I can tell, they are moving on our kids' cases, but it's hidden under layers of rules and red tape. What I mean is that every step takes about 1,000 little steps. For severance to happen, there have to be a million other things that go through court. For a family reunification, even more. There are so many things that happen that we cannot share, so we are just waiting the time when we know what our children's future is for sure. We can guess based on what we have been told. But we also know that nothing is final until the judge says it is. If a CPS worker tells a family that something definitely will happen, I never believe them personally. Just because they do not have the final decision and things change all the time. So here we sit, taking c

Today, I had an Aha moment when it comes to parenting Sweet Pea.  I told myself I would always take into consideration the past trauma while parenting these children.  It's so difficult when they are so young, and even more difficult when one is the same age as our own biological child.  This two year old that we have brought into our home sounds very mature when she speaks, and has a knowledge of certain things that you would not expect.  And yet, she has major trauma in her past. I don't know the full extent of her history, but I know that even one move to a new home with new parents, toys, clothes would be traumatizing. She has been broken down.  She has thought about things that a 2 year old should never have to think about.  Frequent moves may have caused her to wonder where she will sleep tonight, or if she will get to take her favorite pillow if she moves this time.  She may wonder who she will call "Mommy" tomorrow or if this mommy will come back from work tod