Happy Mother's Day!
Happy Mother's Day to all of the wonderful mothers in our lives! We could not be where we are today without the love and support of our moms. We are so excited to celebrate the wonderful moms in our lives.
Mother's Day as a foster parent is a little different. It's a difficult blend of emotions. On one hand, all foster mothers are fully and completely moms, with everything that comes with being a mom. Foster moms deal with tears, dirty diapers, potty training, owies, rocking to sleep, waking up in the middle of the night, homework, and everything else. However, many foster mommies do not feel they can celebrate mother's day. It can be a time of mixed emotions since many birthmothers try very hard to remind foster parents that they are the "real mom." It can also be difficult for foster moms with older children. The children may be sad as they are reminded that they are not with their mom. Although not all of these apply to me, I just wanted to shed some light on how hard this holiday can be for some.
For our kiddos, it's not the extravagant emotional holiday. For Sweet Pea, she no longer has any contact with her birth mother, and we do not have any right to contact her. She has been calling me Mommy since she first came to live with us, so celebrating Mommy is just like a birthday for her. Cuddle Bug is too young to know anything about holidays (he's 6 months old now!!!). However, he still has supervised visits with his mother weekly that are court-ordered. We take the job of co-parenting very seriously, and work very hard to have a good relationship with Cuddle Bug's birth mother. We work with her on his eating habits, trying to teach her, coordinate, and compromise. And it was very important to me to acknowledge her on this holiday that will be very difficult for her. I had a small picture book made for her, and send extra pictures and a handprint craft as well. It was not much, but her appreciation was touching. After all, even if she made mistakes along the way, she is the reason we are holding this beautiful, sweet baby.
Happy Mother's Day to all of the mothers, foster mothers, birth mothers, step-mothers, grandmothers, and mothers of angel babies!
Mother's Day as a foster parent is a little different. It's a difficult blend of emotions. On one hand, all foster mothers are fully and completely moms, with everything that comes with being a mom. Foster moms deal with tears, dirty diapers, potty training, owies, rocking to sleep, waking up in the middle of the night, homework, and everything else. However, many foster mommies do not feel they can celebrate mother's day. It can be a time of mixed emotions since many birthmothers try very hard to remind foster parents that they are the "real mom." It can also be difficult for foster moms with older children. The children may be sad as they are reminded that they are not with their mom. Although not all of these apply to me, I just wanted to shed some light on how hard this holiday can be for some.
For our kiddos, it's not the extravagant emotional holiday. For Sweet Pea, she no longer has any contact with her birth mother, and we do not have any right to contact her. She has been calling me Mommy since she first came to live with us, so celebrating Mommy is just like a birthday for her. Cuddle Bug is too young to know anything about holidays (he's 6 months old now!!!). However, he still has supervised visits with his mother weekly that are court-ordered. We take the job of co-parenting very seriously, and work very hard to have a good relationship with Cuddle Bug's birth mother. We work with her on his eating habits, trying to teach her, coordinate, and compromise. And it was very important to me to acknowledge her on this holiday that will be very difficult for her. I had a small picture book made for her, and send extra pictures and a handprint craft as well. It was not much, but her appreciation was touching. After all, even if she made mistakes along the way, she is the reason we are holding this beautiful, sweet baby.
Happy Mother's Day to all of the mothers, foster mothers, birth mothers, step-mothers, grandmothers, and mothers of angel babies!
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